What To Do When Your Heart Aches



We all experience heartbreaks. At varying levels, every painful, heart-breaking experience is unique to each of us–male or female, young or old, never had a boyfriend or have always been in love.

But regardless of our unique stories, heartbreaks in general bring a certain pain we cannot underestimate.

This pain, when not dealt with carefully, can either turn you into a bitter person or a person who thinks love is not for everyone.

Dealing with pain does not guarantee we won’t experience heartaches ever again. But it’s important to process it in a way that will make us feel better about what happened or even thankful for what is happening. Not because we’re any better than the person who have hurt us or we’re greater than the situation we are in, but simply, we trust that God wouldn’t place us in a journey without creating something beautiful from it. And so we wait in the Lord.

In the midst of our heartbreaking experiences, it’s extremely hard to keep silent. But even so, His still small voice will resonate if we just try, even just for a second, to listen. 100% of the time when He’s telling us something, He is bringing us closer to His will. He fights the silence with His rock-solid Word.

“And yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, and you are the potter. We all are formed by your hand.”  Isaiah 64:8

30 indescribable years gave me some many realizations, and most of them came from those chapters I would call, “Potter Moments.”  Times in my life when God mercifully molded me the way He knows best. I may have gotten hurt or sad in the process, but He never leaves me undone. I am the clay, He is my Potter. And I am forever in His hands.

If you’re fighting a disease or wanting a cure for your illness, know that God is in control of the intricate details inside your body.  Make Him your Great Doctor. Your Healer. Your Deliverer. Trust His timing and His ways. He knows what you are going through.

If you’re getting failing grades in school or feeling left out, move forward. Don’t give up the fight because you are not fighting the battle alone. Like David who faced and defeated Goliath, God will give you that single shot you need to succeed. It may not be the kind of success the world dictates, but it’s a triumph that would make you honor and praise the God you serve.

If your heart is aching because he or she doesn’t love you back, cry it out. Yes, those tears won’t hurt. Acknowledge the pain. Give yourself time. Pray. And feed your soul with God’s Promises. You can depend on Him, take refuge in Him while you’re heavily disappointed about that person or yourself. Let it go–let the person go, let your feelings fade away, let your emotions cool down. Let God take care of it ALL.

It’s easier said than done, I know.

The struggle is real. I’ve been there.

BUT, remember the Potter moment?

Never forget that you are that clay and you are in good hands with Your Potter.

Hang in there, will you? Soon, you’ll be helping others, too if you just hang in there. 🙂


Carmela Ann Santos, TLW volunteer
Mel is a lover of written words, kids, and education. She values her faith, family, and her personal time. She dreams of writing a book, doing an interview with Mike Shinoda, and building her bookstore someday. Her favorite topics are faith, love, and others. She finds happiness seeing her loved ones happy. She wants to retire as a mobile teacher and spend the remaining days of her life in Batanes. Read more about her Writing Life at http://carmelameyla.wordpress.com